Domestic Discipline

Discipline is one of the most crucial aspects of a D/s relationship, administering it can at times be difficult and unpleasant, yet on more light-hearted occasions can be great deal of fun. It is extremely important that the submissive has rules and boundaries to live within, thus enabling them to relax into their submission. The enforcement of these rules by swift and effective punishment, promotes behaviour modification and provides reinforcement of the dominants authority. Within a domestic setting, this illustration of the dominants authority can be effectively executed. Whether it be sending miscreants to stand in the corner and reflect upon their behaviour, or simply pull them across ones knee and administer a sound spanking; boundaries and discipline should be strictly enforced.

The Punishment Stool

Almost every submissive or slave will find complete and utter obedience extremely difficult, if not impossible. On the whole submissives are resourceful and michievous, so it's only natural that they test the boundaries and rules that confine them. I like many other people believe, that only when a slave or submissive truly feels contained, can they relax into their submission. As a result, it is the dominants responsibility to ensure that when these boundaries are tested; swift and effective discipline is administered. When dealing with males, this is particularly effective when combined with orgasm control and denial

This works best within a close relationship, as near-constant supervision is required, especially initially. Well executed domestic discipline is highly effective in the establishing of rules and behaviour patterns; especially within the early stages of marriages and other D/s relationships. Early definition of the dominants rules and boundaries enables the D/s dynamic to firmly take root, enabling both partners to relax into their roles. Crucuially, there are a multitude of opportunities and implements readily available within the domestic setting, which aid the dominants enforcement of this discipline.

Discouraging Bratting

Some dominants choose to deprive their submissives or slaves of luxuries such as contact, by way punishment. Often used instead of corporal punishment; this can be highly effective in the discouragement of bratting. Bratting can be extremely destructive within the context of a D/s relationship, for example if a submissive has a fondess for spanking and the dominant chooses to use spanking by way of punishment – they may then behave badly in order to receive their ‘punishment’ more frequently. This quickly undermines the dominants authority, so should cease to be considered a punishment by the dominant and more unpleasant alternatives sought.

If corporal punishment is to be used, then it is a good idea to ensure that the differences between play and punishment are well established, to ensure the punishment is effective. I believe that as long as the slave or submissive is made aware that they are experiencing punishment and not play, that the effects will be different. The very fact that it is necessary to administer punishment at all should be highlighted as being unacceptable, as should the fact that it brings no pleasure to either party. The feelings humility and regret should be imparted into the recipient and their attention drawn to the unpleasant nature of the dominants task.

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Traditional methods

When administering corporal punishment, it is important that the dominant explains the reason for such action and that no warm-ups be given. Caning from cold for example, is a sure-fire way of ensuring the recipient recognises he or she is being punished, unless of course they are fond of such treatment. Obviously the dynamic within each relationship is different, therefore what is effective from relationship to relationship also differs. Though, giving the miscreant an opportunity to reflect upon their behaviour is effective within many different types of relationship, as this enables the submissive to think about their mistakes and feelings of regret at displeasing the dominant to take root.. This importantly also ensures that their impending punishment is consensual.

In almost all types of punishment such use of psychology is very important and should not be under-estimated. Particularly when the dominant is enforcing behaviour modification or attitude adjustment, the mental aspects of disciplining the submissive are crucial. Physical punishment when administered correctly; ensures that discomfort or pain is associated with unacceptable behaviour. So there is also a lot to be said for immediate and effective corporal punishment, however when combined with a mental reinforcement of the dominants authority and displeasure the impact of such punishment increases considerably.

Within a domestic setting, discipline using corporal punishment is very simple. A resourceful dominant will appreciate the never ending opportunities offered to them and take advantage of the many readily available implements at their disposal. Alternatively sending a naughty boy or girl to fetch an implement; is a wonderful way of extending the ordeal of their punishment and of beginning the important mental process too. Once they return with the tool of their correction, they can then be made to expose their backside and wait - prostrate, for the imminent punishment. Again, it is important here to ensure that this time is spent reflecting upon their behaviour and with the implement in hand they will not easily forget what is soon to come.

Absolution

It is widely recognised that punishment should be administered clinically and without emotion, this helps to ensure that the respect of the submissive for their dominant remains intact. Also use of counting or thanking after each stroke can also be an effective way of ensuring the punishment isn't merely endured, but is experienced fully. After which, if there is no demonstration of regret or a willingness to improve behaviour, the use of more severe implements or alternatives is justified, to successfully affect behaviour modification. It is also important to ensure that after a punishment has been administered, particularly a severe one, that their ordeal is proven to be over and the matter resolved. One of the fantastic aspects of a D/s relationship; is that we can correct bad behaviour or illustrate our displeasure with effective punishment and then move on, leaving no ill-feeling or bitterness. It is therefore important to demonstrate to the submissive that their punishment provides absolution, as long as the lesson has been learned. This is an extremely important element of the punishment process within all areas of D/s. It is worth mentioning however, that some submissives may struggle to react positively to their punishment. If this happens, a method must be found of helping them to get over their resentment quickly, so that harmony can once again be established. So to combat feelings of injustice or even contempt – the submissive can be given the opportunity to physically show humility and submission to the dominant. Or alternatively they can be given time to accept their fate and once ready be given the opportunity to accept their punishment. These methods combined with a few supportive words, helps to re-enforce to the submissive that resistance is destructive and that their dominant is in fact helping them.

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